To Be or Not to Be? Is There A Choice?

Giftedness; it’s not something you can choose or really hide very well. It’s not something you can make up or pretend either. Yet many children have a bit of a problem with it. No, I’m not talking about the kids who aren’t gifted, I’m talking about the gifted kids. Our society has a problem with pride. They’re so proud if a child grows up to be the next big star, or a leader, or an athlete. But heaven forbid if a child is gifted and their comprehension level is higher than average. So they teach those kids about shame. They shouldn’t be proud about that. They should be proud of normalcy, with some talent thrown in in a certain area. I disagree. This pride of normalcy is telling gifted children they aren’t normal, they can’t be like other kids. But they can. It’s ok not to be a cookie cutter mold.

The above average comprehension skills of gifted children can throw many people off at first, and many times can make the child or teen feel isolated. As a three year old, I was reading at a twelfth grade level, with the comprehension of a tenth grader. Needless to say, my parents were careful what they spoke about. No, but really, many children or teens with this level of comprehension can be (I hate to say it) outcasts, loners in the big world of public schools and growing up. They are small bodies with the mind of an adult. Therefore, as they begin to interact with other kids, as groups start to form and circles of friends, and, sadly, as cliques start to build, a child will be accepted and rejected. Why? Because their logic is not the same as that of the others. They automatically analyze the situations they’re in and any ideas and probably totally dismiss them as, well, stupid. For an age group, the ideas are not stupid, but as adults, we see the flaws in them and so can most gifted students. Hence the importance of finding gifted programs. When I first started schooling, I was in a normal kindergarten, and most of the kids probably couldn’t stand me. To fix the problem, every week, the teachers and principal would try to place me in another grade. The fifth week, I was in the fifth grade. I was irritated and bored. I knew everything they were teaching or at least understood it quicker than the kids in the class. I was tutoring fifth graders. I couldn’t stand homework because I though it was pointless. To me, and even through (actual) fifth grade in a gifted program, I thought school was stupid. Mainly because I could comprehend things outside school quicker. My point is that gifted children often get pushed to the edges by other children because they are so unafraid to be different and express that.

This can also cause problems with adults though. In the school system and out, when a gifted child shows blatant disrespect for the system, it won’t go over well. I know what you’re thinking. But my child loves to learn and he loves his teachers and he’s an angel, he would never do such a thing! Good. But this is general. That’s wonderful if it never happens, but don’t be surprised if it does. However, the situation can be diffused. Gifted programs are designed for them and provide them an environment where they can talk about whatever their heart desires. I really enjoyed it myself because all the kids thought like me, were interested in school and learning, etc. Otherwise, outside of school, a gifted child just needs stimulation. Give them a hobby, try to pique their interest. Many love music, the arts, reading, writing. By focusing them on that, you’ll help them grow and give them something to talk about in a group. You know, other than the formulaic expression for salt or politics.

I’m not saying that the above isn’t ok. I’m merely suggesting that some help should be provided and an explanation given why some kids might be overwhelmed by their normal conversation, or how to express oneself, or how to start conversations and make friends. Because their comprehension is so great and they’re mini adults, you’ll be happy to know that this should go over well. If not, just tweak how you’re presenting yourself, try presenting the notion at a different time, etc. Do what works for your kid. These are just general. But overall, teach your kid it’s ok to be. To be gifted, to be smart, to be talented, to be different. To be them.

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The Daisy Charter: A Gifted Teens Perspective

Hi everybody! I hope you enjoy your visit. 🙂 This blog is kind of different. It’s not about fashion, food, a lifestyle. Photography, fitness, or diy’s. Yeah, those are all cool, and I’m sure there’ll be some of everything here in time. But this is about being gifted. No, I’m not being extraordinarily self-confident or egotistical. There is actually something called “gifted” children. Yes, gifted children are generally considered “more” intelligent. No, not all are; most are average. Yes, there are some “gifted” in a certain area, as we all are, and some perform extremely well. No, they are not perfect or better than other children.

In fact, you really shouldn’t think gifted children are any better than others. In fact, they are worse in some ways. I should know. I’ve gone to schools with specifically designed courses and ways of teaching just for gifted children. Generally called Centers for Gifted Studies, there aren’t many after middle school. Maybe we’re supposed to “get over it” by then. I don’t know. And many parents and families don’t know what exactly to do or to look for when they realize they have a gifted child.

Let’s be honest here. Having experienced it personally, most people have no idea what they’re getting into when their children are suddenly considered qualified to be gifted. A lot of times, that’s because they don’t know what it’s like for the child or the teachers or what’s in store for them. Let me give you an example. Has anybody heard that a woman’s mind is like having an Internet browser with 2700 tabs open? Or more? And they’re all running at the same time? Yeah, ok. A gifted childs mind has about four women, a box, some putty, a pillow, and a petting zoo in it. And they’re trying to interact with them all at once. More on that later.

So basically, it’s a bunch of tangled electrical wires sending signals off randomly, some by accident and they’re going who knows where because the kid sure as heck doesn’t know. So be prepared for mood swings, boundless energy, and random bursts of information ranging from why that balloon is pink with blue polka-dots to the squirrel cloud. Be ready for lots of confusion, endless fun and meltdowns. Brace yourselves for unexplainable habits and random projects and phases that never end. I promise, it’s a great ride. And I’d love to share it with you, provide some insight as to how the gifted mind works, and just be here. Because gifted kids are also very empathetic of course.